I met CWL on Twitter (@CWLcentral) a few weeks ago, and really liked how he was posting various tips and advice both for models as well as fans on how to interact with each other. So often, I hear so many complaints from models about how “fans” treat them on social networks – and I’ve had my fair share as well. CWL’s information comes from a guy’s point of view, so it’s short, sweet and makes perfect sense. As he puts it, “I am the Original C.W.L. (Curvy Women Lover), trying to establish a new name for men who prefer curvy girls and help out the guys who lack social skills.” Although his preference is for thicker ladies, I think the advice applies for all adult industry fans:

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I decided to make this list after hearing horror stories from models telling me what kind of non sense they get from guys wanting to hook up. Hopefully this list will help some guys and therefor the models won’t have to deal with such non sense. – CWL

Top 10 Tips for succesful interraction with Web Models
(not in a specific order)

• Tip 1 : Models won’t date a fan, they’ll date a man.
  • Never use the word fan when refering to yourself – she already has a bunch of fans and that won’t make you stand out.
• Tip 2 : Don’t give your cell number in the first message.
  • Desperation = LAME
  • Seriously guys, come on!
• Tip 3 : Be respectful and don’t treat her like a fantasy or object.
  • She’s real with real emotions.
  • This seems very obvious for many, but it’s still a common mistake.
• Tip 4 : Giving too many compliments is like digging your own grave.
  • Too much is, well, too much.
  • Be nice, but don’t seemed obsessed.
• Tip 5 : Don’t send a cock pic.
  • Models get a bunch of them and will most likely get you on the ignore list.
• Tip 6 : Don’t ask for free pics or videos.
  • Makes you look broke and no girls want to date a broke guy.
• Tip 7 : Don’t ask her what her measurements are or bra size right away.
  • Would you ask a girl in a club that? Get to know her first.
  • Also seems obvious but this is a big rookie mistake.
  • You have you have to ease your way into this one.
• Tip 8 : Patience.. don’t go all out at once.
  • You’ll look desperate and scare her off.
  • This one pretty much applies to all the other tips.
  • Don’t rush anything!
• Tip 9 : Being overly sexual off the bat is the biggest source of failure.
  • Let her intiniate the intimacy in a conversation.
  • Might never get there, but patience is the key once again.
• Tip 10 : Don’t expect to get laid, it will most likely not happen.
  • You have to be realistic, buddy!

It’s not that adult performers don’t want to be chatted up. It’s not that we’re bitchy on a regular basis either. It’s just that we’re entertainers with a high sex drive – but we’re still entertainers. Talking to us as if we were streetwalkers won’t get you anywhere, unfortunately, except an invitation to a webcam or membership site – basically, treat us like whores, and you’ll get treated like a john (LOL).

There are a few people (non-industry) that I have met on Twitter that I do hang out with – and they’re not all women. If you’re respectful, polite, act like a gentleman and don’t try to get into my pants, then the likelihood that I’ll be comfortable enough to hang out with you will go up. If on the other hand, you make things pretty clear that all you’re interested in is a little free pornstar booty – well, you know what’ll happen. I won’t feel safe enough to hang out with you, and I’ll just ask you to view my videos instead.

If you’d like to chat with CWL about his advice or anything else, you can find him here:

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“We wanted to take our strengths and make something that was available to anyone in the industry, not just the studios,” says Hourglass8 Media president Kelly Shibari. “The NaughtyTweetNetwork has a well-established place in social media for talent whereas Hourglass8’s strength has been primarily in the B2B market. With so much business being done online between companies, talent and fans, it only made sense to collaborate and offer something truly comprehensive.”

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“Social Media is serious, sophisticated business now”, cites Alyss Heart of the NaughtyTweetNetwork, “gone are the days of having some intern build a page and hope traffic rolls in — if your business isn’t investing in Social Media and related tools you will be left in the dust. Kelly has a unique perspective on the business that will prove amazing to our clients. We’re building a company that can help companies, studios, brands, established stars and would-be’s regardless of budget — more importantly we’ve got the tools, knowledge as well as consumer and industry attention to kick-start any campaign like no other company.”

The combined companies have already completed and will be launching a series of new sites in the NaughtyTweetNetwork in the near future to further enable their ability to penetrate market segments.

“For some time we have been looking for ways to extend our business, the overall impact of the NaughtyTweetNetwork, while maintaining our high level of excitement for Social Media. At the recent XBiz Summer Forum 2010 it became clear that Kelly Shibari would be the perfect addition to our team. She is the first addition; Kelly will join us in discussions with other leaders in the Adult Entertainment Social Media field as we continue to expand and offer more services in this continually challenging environment”, said Pete Housley of the NaughtyTweetNetwork. “It’s time to break old stereotypes and molds — to re-invent the Adult Entertainment business. We’re assembling the team to make that a reality for companies and individual stars alike to grow their brands and increase revenues.”

NaughtyPR has programs available for both corporate as well as individual clients and will incorporate facets previously offered by both companies in the past, as well as new marketing vehicles that utilize real-time interactions between consumers and the industry.

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The CNBC “documentary” last year was no different. The documentary tried to show the industry but fell flat on so many different levels; it advertised itself as a documentary entitled “Porn: Business of Pleasure” and that “nothing is off limits”, but in reality only showcased a biased view of what happens on adult shoots. It was a view of the industry from an outsider that only touched on marketing and technology but instead spent the majority of airtime following pornstars around on shoots as well as a fluff piece about going back to Jesse Jane’s hometown. I suppose the “documentary” was trying to show middle America that “pornstars are regular people,” but I think it could have been done better by also including webmasters and studio personnel other than execs.

Every once in a while, though, you come across a show that seems to be less judgmental about how the industry is – at least online. The following Tech In Twenty podcast is the reason why I agreed to go on their show – it’s smart, savvy, doesn’t throw a bunch of assumptions around disguised as fact, and concentrates on exactly what they SAY they’re going to discuss. It’s nice to hear a show that doesn’t talk about the obvious about the industry (OMG, there are naked guys and girls in porn?!?!? LOL) and instead talks about the INDUSTRY.