Most people following this blog is coming through Twitter, so I probably don’t need to explain what it is. That being said, I came across some rather interesting advice today that should be shared with anyone who is, or is contemplating, using Twitter as a means of social networking.
Most solo site girls will probably find that Twitter is not necessarily a means for them to solicit potential new members to their sites. However, this doesn’t mean that it’s not a viable means of networking. Much like the “Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon” game, you can ALWAYS indirectly market yourself to people who use Twitter. You can ALSO learn new methodologies for marketing your product. This blog site is a specific example of that, since currently I do not promote it anywhere else. If it weren’t for Twitter, you wouldn’t know that this site even existed. That’s not necessarily good marketing on my end – of course it would be better if I marketed myself a little more widely. However, you are joining this blog during its infancy. Guess you can always say “I knew that blog when”, LOL.
Don’t get disillusioned if being on Twitter is not causing your membership to increase on your site. It’s not necessarily designed that way. But it can be a valuable place for you to chat with other solo site girls, non-adult marketing gurus, and keep up with current events. It can also be a place where you can find people who are supportive of your daily ups and downs without being judgmental about your current choice in career. So many chatrooms and message board sites are filled with keyboard warriors and flamewar soldiers. Solo girl sites, and solo adult talent in general, have very little group camaraderie. Most message board sites are places where girls are too busy being competitive to share their tricks and offer advice or support. Twitter timelines, with the exception of a few that I won’t bother mentioning here, tend to be more supportive. People are going to respond to you in real time about your frustrations, your pains, your headaches and worries…as well as your successes and requests for encouragement. Twitter may not be a sunshiny happy utopia, but it certainly has the potential to be a great support site. Don’t necessarily use Twitter to promote yourself. Instead, use it as a place to find support and do any networking in that regard.
Now, returning to the bit of advice that I was sent today on Twitter in the form of a link, that started my own blog post today: take a look at Tim Bulchalka’s blog post on TakeOverPageOne.com. He mentions the seven biggest mistakes (his opinion, but I concur) that people make when being on Twitter. The biggest bit of advice? Be yourself! Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not. The rest of the world may see you as an internet adult actress, but aren’t you much more multidimensional than that? Share your experiences. Share who you are. I’m obviously not saying you need to open up your entire world with a public that might not know your privacy needs. But be open to sharing your disappointments and questions. Ask questions. Don’t always appear as the authority that you may be presenting yourself, if there are any issues in which you might need more education or clarity.
Just remember – confidence is sexy, but so many people don’t understand what real confidence is. Confidence isn’t being the arrogant authority on a subject. Admitting your faults and openly expressing your desire to learn and better yourself (in all the ways that is possible, from personal to business) is where REAL confidence comes in. Having the stones to admit that you’re not perfect but you’re open to suggestions is where real confidence comes in. And THAT’s sexy.
Here are some additional Twitter comic frames to make you giggle today: